Proverbs  5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. (NKJ)

Prov 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. (NKJ)

Prov 18:22  He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD. (NKJ)

Prov 19:13b the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping. (NKJ)

Webster contention = strife

Prov 19:14b a prudent wife is from the LORD. (NKJ)

Prov 21:19 Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman. (NKJ)

Eccl 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun. (NKJ)

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Hebrews 13:4  Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (NKJ)

2 Corinthians 6:14  Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (NKJ)

1Cor 2:16  "For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with violence," says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." (NKJ)

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The bible has some things to say to those married husband and wives.

Marriage Christ and the Church  

Ephesians 5:22-33   22  Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

23  For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

24  Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25   Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

26   that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,

27   that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

28   So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

29   For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

30   For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.

31   "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."

32   This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33   Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (NKJ)

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1 Peter 3:1-8   Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,

2  when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

3  Do not let your adornment be merely outward-- arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel--

4  rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

5  For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,

6  as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

7  Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

8  Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; (NKJ)

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18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. NKJ)

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. (NKJ)

20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. (NKJ)

21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (NKJ)

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1 Corinthians 7:1  Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2  Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.  (KJV)

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The living bible puts it this way

1 Corinthians 7:1 {Instruction on Marriage--} Now about the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.

2  But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

3  The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.

4  The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife.

5  So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control. (NLT)

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1 Corinthians 6:15  Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! (NKJ)

16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For "the two," He says, "shall become one flesh." (NKJ)

17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. (NKJ)

18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. (NKJ)

19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? (NKJ)

20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's. (NKJ)

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1 Corinthians 7:8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; (NKJ)

9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (NKJ)

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Col 1:20  and by Him to[[ reconcile all things ]] to Himself, by Him, whether things on earth or things in heaven, having made peace through the blood of His cross. (NKJ)

DOES THIS MEAN YOUR MARRIAGE ALSO?? he reconciles all things on earth or things in heaven

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"That the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not out of his feet to be trampled on by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved."      Matthew Henry

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Couples Therapy for America

Fixing the red-blue uncivil war

By Megan McArdle

Shortly before I got married, I received a piece of sterling advice that I have been mulling a lot over the last year: “You have a big decision to make: Do you want to be married, or do you want to be right?”  Even a good marriage offers a lot of opportunities for grievance.  The more determined you are to win every battle, the more likely you are to lose what is important: the person that you love so much that you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with them.  And so every time you have a real disagreement – the kind that cannot be finessed by agreeing that tonight you’ll order Indian, and the next time you’ll get Chinese – you have to think carefully before you decide to have that fight.  Is this really the hill that you’re willing to let your marriage die on?  Because if not, now’s a good time to shrug your shoulders and let them paint the ceiling teal.  How often do you really look up there, anyway?  You have to decide this even when the grievances are more important than paint colors:  Your partner snaps at you when they’ve had a bad day, leaves their junk lying around for you to pick up, spends too much money on things you don’t need, or vanishes whenever your family comes over.  Some hills are worth dying on.  But a lot of them are of no strategic value in gaining your ultimate objective: a long and happy partnership. If you spend your marriage trying to ensure that everything is always rigorously fair and just, and grabbing the flaming sword of righteousness every time some minor wrong is done to you, you may soon find that you spend more time fighting than you would have picking up their towels or going into the other room to watch a movie because your spouse is in a bad mood.  Or you may find that you have a peaceful, clean house that’s exactly as you want it – because you’re living there alone.  A reassuring, note to my alarmed readers: I haven’t been thinking about this because my marriage is on the rocks.  Like everyone else, my husband and I had to get adjusted to the fact of another person around whose needs must be considered on par with your own.  But we’re doing just fine this year.  It’s another marriage I’ve been watching disintegrate; the one between red and blue states.  While traveling a few months back, I ended up chatting with a divorce attorney, who observed that what we're seeing in America right now bears a startling resemblance to what he sees happen with many of his clients.  They've lost sight of what they ever liked about each other; in fact, they've even lost sight of their own self-interest.  All they can see is their grievances, from annoying habits to serious wrongs.  The other party, of course, generally has their own set of grievances.  There is a sort of geometric progression of outrage, where whatever you do to the either side is justified by whatever they did last.  They, of course, offer similar justifications for their own behavior. By the time the parties get to this state, the object is not even necessarily to come out of the divorce with the most money and stuff; it's to ensure that your former spouse comes out with as little as possible.  People will fight viciously to get a knick-knack neither of them particularly likes, force asset sales at a bad loss and otherwise behave as if the victor is not the person who goes on to live a productive and happy life, but the one who makes it impossible for the ex to do so.  However damaging these battles are at least they eventually end. etc.. etc..  

Scribe note:  This writer Megan McArdle continues with her column making points about her subject matter of the division in America.  But her illustration using marriage as an example is interesting.  Of course we are focusing on her background of marriage used to make her point.  It is so good and makes me stop and examine myself,  how about you?


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